If you knew that the next thing you told yourself would determine the next thing you reached for to eat, would you call yourself “junk”?
If you did, what do you think the next thing you reached for would be?
That’s right. Junk.
You will fulfill the prophecy you speak over yourself if left to your own devices.
So why not create a new set of devices for yourself? Most of us who’ve struggled with negative self talk (*raises hand) picked it up long ago, and it became so engrained in our thought process that we mightn’t even think of it as an actual voluntary thought anymore.
But it wasn’t there on October 20, 1993, and then Susan in Mrs. Roberts’ class told us we looked like a hippo in our new Lisa Frank inspired babydoll dress. So when the clock strikes October 21, 1993 – is this the new reality? Thinking twice about how every item of clothing looks? Second guessing what other people are thinking about us this day, and still, 25 years later? It happens, doesn’t it? Think about those little hang-ups that you have. When did they start? They became a theme in your life, right?
Can we actually choose to think ourselves into a new reality all these years later?
Your mind is incredibly powerful. What you do to get stronger at life can’t just consist of progressive overload for the body. Being forced to adapt to tension is one of the requirements for muscle, strength, or performance increase. But what if your mind has the ability to tell itself a new story, and those previous adaptations to tension don’t have to determine your current state of mind? So if Susan’s cruel words (tension) lead to an adaptation of years of practicing negative self talk – can you make a new pathway now?
We say, yes.
That’s where practice comes in. Your brain is not acting in a silo. Your body’s physical ability to speak something to life, and if done long enough, to create new pathways, behaviors, and eventually, belief systems, is but one of many examples of the majesty of humanity. So if you can stop, consider your thoughts that are just running rampantly through your brain, and decide whether said thoughts belong in the life you are choosing to live, you can be an active participant in changing your mind to change your life.
HOW COOL IS THIS?
If you want to do a little light reading in lieu of Netflix, check out this article: https://www.theepochtimes.com/how-olympians-train-their-brains-to-become-mentally-tough_2458608.html – and don’t be fooled by the words “mentally tough” because they don’t involve drill sergeant-like barking at yourself to work harder, faster.
While we can’t necessarily “speak into existence” every positive thought we’d like to see enter our life, what about this? Next time you catch yourself on the way to the snack cabinet when your kids have been screaming and running around like maniacs and you just need a break, tell yourself “You’re feeling overwhelmed right now, and resorting to eating junk food is going to keep you in this cycle. It’s okay if you decide to do it, but you’re not incapable of handling this in a different way.”
Seems too soft, right? I used to think so. It’s almost like you’re giving yourself permission. But really, isn’t that a more powerful action than letting the action of thinking junk and then eating junk just “happen”? And then thinking about how hopeless and out of control you are? And then doing it again the next day …
Why not speak a “new” reality, even before you fully believe it, and give your physical body a chance to catch up and make a different decision? Even if you’re not sure you can do this repeatedly – you don’t have to be. You just have to choose it this time. Winning once gives you enough history to have a chance to be motivated enough to win again … and again … and again. You might find that the message that you’re telling yourself, over time, changes in a way that leads you away from the snack cabinet and into a more powerful life.
It’s time to start thinking about your thoughts and whether eviction notices need to get taped to some doors in your mind.